Dating After Divorce

By Christina Rowe

Where do you go to meet someone new? Years ago it seemed like singles bars were the only permanent meeting place. They were open every night, but they were also pressure cookers that were often fueled by too much alcohol. Now there is another spot this is always open: the World Wide Web. The Internet provides many interesting options. As online dating has gained popularity it has shown itself to be more convenient than singles bars, with more possibilities as well.

I joined This dating service makes you fill out a lengthy questionnaire aimed at matching you and a mate. The match is made on the basis of several critical components. I liked E-harmony for several reasons. One was their policy of not posting your information and photo for just anyone to see. Your data is sent only to specific matches.

Another popular site is Though I made no dates through them, I perused their site, and saw how they worked. They seem to have a greater selection of potential dates. At you can browse and look at available singles pictures and profiles. You do the choosing using the posted information.

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My cousin has had some success there, meeting a man, and starting a serious relationship with him. Hers is one of many Internet success stories. I know of a woman who was recently divorced and developed a friendship online with a man from Scotland. They exchanged emails and photos, and soon their feelings deepened. He sent her two airline tickets to Scotland, one ticket for her and one for a friend. Although hesitant, she went. She fell in love. After returning to the United States she felt that she could no longer go on without this man. She flew back to Scotland and they were married. By the way, he is a millionaire and they live in a castle! They just recently celebrated the birth of their first child. So you see, fairy tales do happen!

For some nothing will do but to meet someone the old-fashioned way in person. One can stay away from singles bars, but still find people with similar interests, by joining a club or taking classes. Even if the right person isn t there, you will still have a lot of fun. The workplace can be an avenue for romance, though you must mind any given job site s rules on socializing.

Though many of us dread the singles bar, they can be tolerable, and even good places to go if you take along some friends. Go to one where there s dancing. You may meet someone worthwhile. It does happen!

Last but not least, don t be too shy about having friends or family match you with someone.

Whatever option you choose; don t get discouraged. It takes time. If you have the patience you will be rewarded with an array of choices.

About the Author: Christina Rowe is the author of the new book “Seven Secrets To A Successful Divorce-What Every Woman Needs To Know”. Find out the survival skills that will save you time, money and heartache during your divorce. For your free Secrets of Divorce newsletter go to


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